While I can`t answer all the scenarios, I`d like to offer some ideas that might help you think more clearly about your child and his first phone. Besides, I hope to have a much more complete answer for you very soon, since I am currently working on writing some books on this subject. But for now, it`s here. Here are four great ideas to help along the way. It comes in several forms, but all their questions about phones are really about two main issues: Then, contain the consequences for the violation of the rules of use of the phone: Hello! I haven`t had kids who would get their first phone, but I found your blog topic interesting, so I keep reading and reading the contract as well. It`s a very good contract. There must be no misunderstandings about the rules. That`s how they`re organized. Deciding whether your tween is responsible enough to have a mobile phone is not always easy to take. And once you`ve succeeded, you still need to teach your child some basic rules of cell phone ownership, as well as the tasks that occur with a cell phone. I often wish it was just a phone.
But that`s not it. Here`s my answer: yes. You should have a phone. I was recommended a few documentaries, so I wanted to share them here too. A family friend who loves our children advised us to see Childhood 2.0. Her family suffered trauma and a very difficult number of years after her daughter received a phone call at the age of 10/11. Another problem is the social dilemma. Have you seen one? Given the risks, children should have mobile phones and how do you decide when it`s the right time to make the jump? Jimmy did some research and discovered an amazing app called Bark to monitor Jules` phone. Bark monitors your child`s texts, e-mail, YouTube and 30-stocked social media apps and platforms on topics such as cyber-harassment, adult content, sexual predators, desecration, suicidal thoughts, threats of violence and more.
This contract between [parents` names go here] and [Tween`s name here] sets out the family rules and the consequences with regard to mobile phone use. Bond E. Mobile phones, risk and responsibility: understanding children`s perspectives. Cyberpsychology (Brno). 2013;7(1). doi:10.5817/CP2013-1-3 Mobile phones are also particularly risky for children, including those with ADHD who are prone to acting impulsively. Their impulsiveness makes them more likely to post or send something they might regret later, and in a world where everything you create is recorded in cyberspace, they risk making long-term mistakes. But on the other hand, they would never give them a book with matches, a pocket knife or car keys without strategy. We just have to recognize that phones are efficient and need to be treated as such. You are about to take a big step with your child. Of course, they`ve been telling you for months that everyone has their phone — so it shouldn`t be that big, should it? That`s all it is.
Most of us are more connected to our phones than we would like to admit. Sometimes you even call people with them. The thing to remember is that there is a difference between what a phone can do and what our children can handle at any given time. It makes perfect sense and it`s possible to limit what a phone can do for a season while your child wades into the world of wearable technology. It may take some time, but it is worth it. You will find other ideas on this concept in our technology agreement. I am often puzzled when people ask me if I think a child should have a phone. I know I could sound like a “fun dad” (Google “Mean Girls,” if it doesn`t make sense to you), but I think I`m a responsible dad when I say that.